Strip Tease

I believe deep down, every woman thinks of what it would be like to perform an erotic striptease and every man dreams of watching it.

Possible reasons you fear it:

• My partner will laugh at me.
• What if I can't stop laughing?
• I might fall on my butt!
• I'm going to look silly in my costume.
• The neighbors will find out.
• might turn into a super-sensual sex vixen out of control.

These fears have one thing in common: they exist only in your mind.

Choosing a Role

• Find out what your partner's fantasies are, this gives you the chance to do a performance that will either be dominating or submissive.
• Choice of music will should enhance the tone, as will your costume. Some Dominant roles strippers have used for years include Catwoman, Cop, Tiger, Zena, Dominatrix, Bitch Boss, Devil, Nurse, Secretary. If you're into a more submissive performance, you can dress up as a French Maid, Geisha Girl, Hooker, Harem Girl, Nurse or Secretary.

What to Wear

• Don't forget - it has to go with the role you have chosen.
• Dark powerful colours are dominating and softer colours are submissive.

Setting the Stage

• Set the lights down low, maybe a few candles. (This is great for those who are shy about their bodies.)

Music

• Have your chosen music ready to go in the cd player.
• Hard music or soft music? Dominating or submissive? Your music should go with your theme.
• Never mouth the words to the song playing behind your performance. Bad lip-synching is distracting. You may wish to sing key lines out loud, however. Learn where they are, and practice.

The Final Tip:Look at yourself in the mirror when you practice, practice, practice, and don't take yourself seriously!

Love

Love means loving the imperfections just as much, if not more, than the perfections. These are the things that make the individual unique. They are often the things that you lack. Things that create a balance between you both.

The Tough Times

No relationship is without negatives. These negative experiences will play a critical role in the health and longevity of your relationship.

Intimacy develops over time. It must be grown slowly as we deepen our relationship. These means making ourselves vulnerable. Intimacy builds every time we listen attentively to our partner, communicate painful feelings, take a risk in saying we are sorry first, or ask for what we want or need from our other. Unfortunately our best intentions are often meant with resistance.

When dealing with difficult situations it is important to:

• Take ownership of your actions and feelings
• Let go of historical happenings and focus on the situation at hand
• Remain free of judgment
• Try to stay calm and avoid overreacting
• Openly share information
• Be patient
• Try to remember the fun/good times
• Be ready to compromise

No matter what it is important that you

• talk together
• listen to each other
• resolve conflict (compromise)
• forgive each other
• respect each other
• have fun together
• be committed to each other
• love and be loved

The Kiss

(Sorry I'm a bit late this week.)

A lot can be said for the kiss. It is often the first sign of affection. It is key to personal connection. It creates romance, passion and intimacy. It can say a lot of things. When you are in a long term relationship, how can you have some fun with the kiss?

1. Kiss the mirror before going to bed at night, so you partner sees it when he/she wakes up in the morning.
2. Kiss a piece of paper and put it into your partner's lunch bag.
3. Write "I love you " in the snow outside the bedroom window and trace out kissing lips below it. Or you can use sticks and leaves.
4. Buy a helium balloon with lips on it.
5. Send flowers. One the card, place a kiss.
6. Send an email kiss.
7. Give a small kiss over the phone.
8. (girls only) Put on your brightest lipstick and kiss your partner all over before he wakes up. (You should likely only do this if you don't have to go anywhere in a hurry)

Things you should do everyday:

• Kiss your loved one good morning
• Kiss your loved one good night

Added touches:

• Kiss your loved one when you leave the house or get home

Tools of a Healthy Relationship

The Healthy Relationship are based on the belief that both partners are equal. It means that when you are with your partner

• you have fun
• you feel like you can be yourself
• you can have your own opinions and interests even if they differ from your partners

As a couple. You should,

1. Always tell the truth. You shouldn't have to lie to protect your partner. Lies only create disconnect and distance.
2. Follow through with commitments. If you say that you are going to do something, do it. If for some reason you can't, let your partner know why you can't ahead of time. Not only does this show that you respect your partner, but it also creates trust.
3. Own your emotions. If you are having a bad day, let your partner know. If you snap at your partner, apologize for it.
4. Learn from each other.
5. Appreciate yourself and your partner.
6. Make major decisions together. It is a partnership.
7. Be willing to compromise. Know how to accept change.
8. Share daily repsonsibilitie. Work as a team.
9. Support each other's goals. Believe in each other.
10. Communicate openly.

It all comes down to respect. You need to respect yourself as an individual and you need to respect your partner as an individual. You also need to respect who you both are as a couple.

Tip Two: Start with the little things

While anyone can do be grand gestures, it’s the everyday little things that matter. What you need to remember is that romance means different things to men and women. All people need to be nurtured and attended too.

Words
Say kind, supportive, and loving things - Use positive words to build your partner up
Pay attention to how you say it - be genuine

• Make sure you communicate – daily dialogue
• A little note in the lunch bag
• Flirt with each other
• Notice the little things, understand the quirks in your partner
• Everyone once in awhile make a toast to each other

Time
Spend time together - Give the other person your full attention

• Tickets to an event (sports, theater, opera)
• Share a regular date night – if you have kids pre-book the baby sitter for three months at a time.
• Take the television out of the bedroom
• Develop a few favourite rituals

Gifts
Do not have to be expensive - They should be creative or thoughtful

• A single flower on the pillow
• Make birthdays special – do not get gift certificates

Service
Do things you know your partner would like you to do

• Breakfast in bed once in a while
• Do a chore without being asked
• Spontaneous night out so no one has to cook

Touch
Powerful ways to show romantic love

• A good morning kiss
• A nighttime cuddle
• Evening walks: hand in hand
• Sex should not be a chore

Tip One: Make it a priority

Staying intimate with a partner, like most things in life, takes a commitment. You need to want to work at it. You need to want it there. There has to be willingness on both people’s side. So tip number one is to make intimacy a priority in your relationship.

Before you can look at connecting physically, you should connect emotionally and mentally. How do you do this, you might ask. It depends on your interests and your available resources. The most important thing is to spend time as a couple alone. While you should try to set aside a minimum of five minutes a night to catch-up on the day and get in-touch with each others’ mood, you need to go above and beyond every once and a while. Stretch it out. Do it once a week, once a month, even once a year,

1. Spend a night without the TV on. Instead play an old board game like Life or Payday.
2. Take on a new hobby together. Try something that neither one of you has done before but both want to. (For my hubby and me it might be rock climbing or skydiving.)
3. Take dance lessons. Just a one or two day weekend course.
4. Plan a special evening together. Whether you prefer a special night out that involves dressing up and making reservations at an exclusive restaurant, or an evening of fishing in a canoe, spending time together is what counts.
5. Get out of the house as a couple. You want to be away from the dishes, the laundry, the bills, and the kids — even for a brief time. This can do your relationship a world of good. It may seem like a big effort at first, but I encourage you to make the effort.
6. Take it a step further. You’ve got someone to watch the kids, you’re already out. Why not stay on a hotel for the evening. That way you can both put your feet up and be papered.
7. If you absolutely cannot get away, plan something special for later in the evening. Have a mid-night dinner and dance together. If possible have the evening catered. Otherwise cook dinner together. Follow-up with a nice massage and some cuddling. If the mood is right, have sex. Do not force the issue. The night is about more than sex. Some simple things that you can do to make the night a bit more fun include,
   - Spend the week before your date collecting little memorabilia items that remind you of why you love your partner. During dinner take out each object and share it with your partner. Tell your partner why you chose it and explain what it represents.
   - Eat in only candle light.
   - Try a Fondue for dessert. Simple and sexy.
   - Change your outfit. Dress up as if you were going out.
   - If your dinning room is separate from your everyday eating area, sit in there.
8. Read poetry together. It doesn’t have to be love poems, although that certainly adds an element of romance.
9. Sit in a warm bubble bath together, in candle light. Use bubble bath or rose petals.
10. Keep kid stuff out of the master bedroom. This is your space. Keep it that way. It will help to keep the focus on your relationship and your mind off the kids.

This simple list, it should help to get you started. There are many other ideas. I encourage you to use the comment area to share ideas that have worked for you in the past.